Friday, May 21, 2010

2010

2010 is so my year. I started this year with my dream job in an oil company and I now earn a fat salary- not sure if it will still be fat in three years though and of course my profile has greatly gone up.

In April, I got married to the love of my life, my honey and strawberry gateau. I also got to visit famous dubai and sharjah for my honeymoon. Needless to say, I saw dubai and didn't die but shopped like it was my last holiday.

I clocked a quarter of a century in May. I've never had a birthday get together as long as I can remember. So, I'd be giving my girlfriends a wicked treat this weekend at Jade Garden Chinese Resturant.

My big sis bought her first car in May as well (not forgetting the one dad gave her as a gift two yrs ago). She's been cruising town in it. I'm jealous.

My baby sister who I'm nine years older will be leaving secondary school and entering university in September, sob! sob!!. Thank God for private universities in our lives,hopefully she'd be a first class graduate like me in 2014.

My older brother will be getting married to his longtime sweetheart later in August.

I hope to buy my first car in September- after selling the one dad gave me two years ago and spending the money on what I can't remember now.

I will be starting my PhD later in the year.  Apart from the fact that I like to read and I'm passionate about research, I'm getting a Phd so I can be addressed as Dr. (Mrs) N. I. Shogologobangoshe (I hope that's not a curse).

And, I will be ending my year with a white christmas in God's own country AMERICA with babies T and K in my inibiti tummy. lol

All these are first in my life, that's why 2010 will forever be a special and memorable year for me.

Dear God, thank you for what you have done, thank you for what you are doing and thank you for what you will. My hope is built on YOU alone.

Thursday, May 20, 2010

Hubby and I Disagree

Forty eight days after my wedding ceremony, hubby and I have our first major disagreement. Hubby is mad because I've spoken to the same colleague twice in two days at night. I think the calls have been innocent especially on my part but maybe I encouraged it- not deliberately though. Hubby has gone ballistic (like he does when he dislikes something). I tried to explain that the call was innocent but he won't have any of it and he stormed out of the room, leaving me to my conscience.


However, I was greatly pained when hubby said he has noticed the way I took great pain to look good these days and he thinks it's because of my colleague- that hurt real bad. You see, when hubby and I were dating, we had loads of fight because I forgot to wear lip gloss or powder. Now, I'm sad because I try to make an effort to please hubby and all I get is such an accusation.


I usually go to bed at eight but  tonight I was still awake at 11:00 p.m on a workday because hubby refused to come to bed. I began to have a terrible headache and didn’t fell sleepy one bit. I choose to play sudoku, hoping I will fall asleep but instead I finished a set of Sudoku and was wide awake to play some more. My body was tired So, I sent a text to hubby, apologising for being naive. Hubby eventually came to bed after like another thirty minutes. He was apologetic as well and I was quick to apologise again. We eventually went to bed not without ...


Dear God, please help me. Give me the strength to overcome every temptation that comes my way. I also need all the wisdom I can get.

Baby Mama

I came across these words in black American films and it was used to describe the mother of one’s child. “My baby mama this or that”, whatever!

 
My post is about me becoming a Baby Mama. I like babies but I’ve never really gone out of my way to carry, tickle or coo them, although, I try hard these days but it doesn’t just flow. The babies don’t even make it easier they just stare at me, wondering what on earth am trying to do. Very Annoying!


Now that I’m married, I can’t run away from it anymore. Each time I visit my mum, she pokes my tummy (like she can feel the baby that way) and I tell her “Mummy we are not ready”. The last time I visited her she was practically begging me “joo joo, se o mo pe mo ti n dagba (please please u know I’m getting old)”. I almost fell for her sad look.


Hubby and I have discussed having children and we have agreed that we will worry about it after furthering our education. I want to get a PhD and Masters for Hubby. So, after we returned from our honeymoon, I went to see my Ob and asked him to recommend a birth control. Needless to say, I have already done my own research (thank God for Google-my fave website of all time), so when my Ob said the pill, I began asking questions based on the side effects I had read online. Ob assured me that I will be fine on the pill and gave me a dosage for three months. He asked me to come back anytime in case I was experiencing any side effects.

How could I forget to mention the horrifying medical examination? After I told my Ob the reason for my visit, he asked me take off my clothes and lie on the bed, bend my knees, join my feet together and spread my bended knees. If only that was all, I would have been the happiest lady on earth that day but it was just the beginning. He started with my breast, after rubbing and fiddling with them. He inserted a speculum in me (Google it up, in my own opinion too big for that tiny hole), the whole process didn’t last long but I wish the Ob could have skipped that part and I know it doesn’t get better especially when one is pregnant.

I started taking the pill every day, I was practically living on drugs. Once the grandfather clock in the living room chimed 8:00 p.m. Hubby reminds me to take my drugs even though I never forget. I’m championing this course and there is no way I was going to lose concentration. I was doing fine until like a week into the drugs, I started feeling funny and couldn’t explain how I felt. I started getting compliments left, right and centre, you’ve added weight, you look good. What??? The last thing I wanted to hear was that I had gained weight. So, I hit the gym, but that didn’t help, I was adding more pounds just by breathing. The bloody pill was messing my system up.

Finally, I got to the inactive pills, where I was supposed to get my period and there was nothing. I began to fret. I went back to Google and discovered this blog http://babymed.com/Blog/Blog.aspx?3 which I found very useful. I didn’t need any further convincing, I ditched the pills immediately. I’ve been sleeping well and I’m sure I’d lose some of the weight I gained.

Wondering what I use now? I’m just free styling and trusting God to bless me like everyone else while I prepare myself mentally, spiritually and physically (babies have to be American citizens) for my bundle of twins when they come. Irony right? Twins but I truly want them.

Dear God, please bless me with twins - Oluwataiwo and Oluwakehinde. I will take proper care of them for you and teach them your word.